Holidays
Holidays and losing someone
The holidays can bring out so much joy, yet tragic disappointment. I would do anything to bring back someone I just lost. But I can’t. Time can be cruel but maybe not as much so as the unexpected. Questions can plague your every thought and action. The what-ifs can eat at you.
Hold on to what is important in the season
It is important to hold on to the loving relationships you have closely right now. But also live on with and share incredible love you had, even if that person is no longer physically present – for one reason or another. Every great love has meaning. I am still trying to figure out my way to honor him…
It may be using some art he made in Etsy because we talked about doing that together. Or maybe a storybook, that can be just for me. Or also a great last-minute gift if you need one…
My Promise
One thing I promised him was I would be the best version of me that he saw. I would do that for him because he saw more in me than I could. He brought out a better version of myself. I think he would want me to continue doing what I love. Or I know he would. Yet grief is hard and losing a big relationship suddenly is a lot.
But every relationship means something. We all learn and grow from one another. The holidays are a time to be grateful for the people you have in your life, but do not forget every other person along the way. And do not forget the people that are in need. (Not me but some people do really need help around this time of year).
My last holiday was magical because of love. This one not so much, because of love. Either way, love can make a huge difference. It is up to you how to use it. For me, I hope I can find a way to channel the love I feel is gone into a positive way for others.
What Do I Want?
If you are still reading and take anything away from this post, please donate to those in need. Or reach out to someone that may seem down. You really never know how a simple act of kindness can change another person’s world.
Final Thoughts
Holidays are not all about being sad of course. Check out some of my other holiday-related posts for more or contact me.
p.s. I will update this post with the right pictures and stuff when I can.
thank you to those that have been there for me.
